The most damaging part of social oppression has never been the act of oppression, but the oppression we internalize within ourselves.
It is utterly life-changing when a man sees the truth about the shame that has driven him and his constant, sometimes frantic efforts to avoid it. The avoidance of shame has shaped our lives, determined our careers, and chosen our lovers. Not until we acknowledge its power over us are we free to choose a different, more fulfilling life.
Allan Down, Ph.D.
"The Velvet Rage"