Our LOVE

S & my relationship & LOVE for others:

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IN THE 'What Do You Want To See?' SECTION...

I was asked to relay how Sean & I got together. Sean & I recall the fine details differently; here's my version:
 

      Soon after I arrived in Palm Springs, I got a job offer to manage a resort and to celebrate my good fortune; I decided to take the rest of the day off (from looking for work) and to sun at the next-door resort, Whispering Palms. I checked in with the manager, Lakin, and set-up to sunbathe near the spa. I dozed, read and periodically chatted with Lakin. Out of the corner of my eye, I caught a glimpse of another guy at the resort. There was something quite intriguing about him, but I couldn’t put my finger on it.


      Throughout the long conversations with Lakin, I’d casually toss in an inquiry about who ‘that guy’ was. I learned that he had just arrived and that his name was Sean.  The day drew to dusk and for a couple hours, Sean was nowhere to be seen. I hung around hoping to bump into him before I left.

      Now, it was time for dinner, no Sean, so I asked Lakin to dinner. As we exited the resort, I bumped into Sean who was coming in to ask Lakin to join him for dinner. I asked him to join us; assuring him that he was a welcome addition. As the three of us approached the Lincoln Continental sedan Lakin was going to drive us to dinner in, Lakin saw that the passenger seat was full with stuff. He said, “Give me a sec and I’ll put this stuff in the trunk.” I said, “No problem, we’ll sit in the back.”

     Once in the back seat and on our way to the restaurant, I was able to put my finger on what was intriguing about Sean. After dinner, Sean and I talked the night away in his room. I told him bits and pieces about me without revealing much because hearing the pieces of his story convinced me that he was likely just passing through town.

        We awoke in each others' arms the next morning. That day I told the person (Lyle) who had put me up in his place, that I would be moving into a resort to manage it the next day. I called the owner of the resort and asked if it would be OK if Sean moved into the manager’s quarters with me. He said, “Sure”. I am sure that he was quite puzzled that I now had a boyfriend. The manager’s quarters was a good-sized bedroom adjacent to the hotel lobby. I spent that day and night with Lyle. The next morning Sean and I moved into the resort and I began my manager’s training.

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I just realized (2012) - the reason S & My chance meeting developed into more was, at that moment, both our pasts were behind us; we were open to wherever the future would take us.

ELM

One of the greatest blessings I hope for everyone alive --

that they have or find a Love for someone as great as

Sean's and mine.

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LOVE - Simply . . .

"We believe that we are hurt when we don't receive Love. But that is not what hurts us. Our pain comes when we don't give Love. We were born to Love. You might say that we are divinely created Love machines. We function most powerfully when we are giving Love. The truth is that our well-being is dependant on our giving Love. It is not about what comes back; it is about what goes out!"

Alan Cohen

Love cures people -- both the ones who give it and the ones who receive it.

Dr. Karl Menninger

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Anything you think there should be more of, do it randomly.

Kindness can build on itself as much as violence can.

A vision of guerrilla goodness.

It's positive anarchy, disorder, a sweet disturbance.

Senseless acts of beauty spread.

They say you can't smile without cheering, yourself up a little -- likewise, you can't commit a random kindness without feeling as if your own troubles have been lightened if only because the world has become slightly better place.

Who knows what you might have inspired to be done for someone else later?

Like all revolutions, guerrilla goodness begins slowly, with a single act. Let it be yours.

Adair Lara

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...we are never handicapped as long as we can help someone else.

Dottie Walters

...no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Love is Fluid & Solid (at the same time); the only thing like that."

ELM

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If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not Love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophesy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not Love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not Love, I gain nothing, Love is patient, Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophesies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and Love. But the greatest of these is Love. (Large Type denotes Verse Change)

1 Corinthians Chapter 13

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the Love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:38-39

Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates his brother is still in the darkness.

1 JOHN 2:9

And so we know and rely on the Love God has for us. GOD IS LOVE. Whoever lives in LOVE lives in God, and God in him.

1 John 4:16

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. . . it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.

Antione de Saint-Exupery

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Death ends a Life; not a relationship. - (Tuesdays with Morrie)

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Does it take dying to appreciate the one you Love?

*     We're all dying -- we just have different dates. - (ELM)

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People are always asking couples whose marriage has endured at least a quarter of a century for their secret for success. Actually, it is no secret at all. I am a forgiving woman. Long ago, I forgave my husband for not being Paul Newman.

Erma Bombeck

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We don't tell people how much they mean to us when they're alive. - (Tuesdays with Morrie)

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All my life, I was shown conditional love by others while my Mother's was unconditional. Love was apportioned for behavior and reward when the Giver was pleased. Not pleased – no love.

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Eventually, my Mother's unconditional Love was not enough to sustain me over all the others I had to perform for.
Looking back, I now realize I too learned to love conditionally. Late in life, I came out to be true to me and began to learn unconditional Love for myself…accepting, instead of rejecting myself. I have now been able to share my unconditional Love and continue to practice it.

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I am sure that my leaving my past was not only to escape the feelings of oppression, falsehood, conditional love…it was also that I loved conditionally and those around me were not performing as I wanted them to.

ELM

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And I believe that Love is stronger than death.

Every person passing through this life will unknowingly leave something and take something away. Most of this "something" cannot be seen or heard or numbered. It does not show up in a census. But nothing counts without it.

…the invincible weapon against the evils of this earth: the caring heart. … the everlasting riches of this life: the wealth of the compassionate spirit. (Robert Fulghum – "All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten")

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My Love

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"I'm Better Because of You. We were ready for each other." (The sign I made for our bedroom when S & I first got together.

A Message for Every Couple.)

ELM

This pic is of S when he was 4.

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Life is so much more -- with you. (I can't imagine Life without him.)

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"...when you Love someone and they Love you back, the world doesn't look that lousy or seem that mixed up."
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"We gave one another something that most friendships are not able to give -- vulnerability."

                                             Erma Bombeck

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ONCE UPON A TIME - CRYPTIC and TRUE - FULL CIRCLE*
Fri, 09 Apr 2004 ONCE UPON A TIME ―― <>

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Once upon a time...two people met...they led a life beyond their wildest imagination...became best friends, companions, and lovers...one of them was the rock, the other driftwood...the rock was solid and stable, the driftwood not...eventually the driftwood felt the urge to drift again...thinking it was in his nature to drift, he left the rock...then something miraculous happened...through drifting he found himself...and through finding himself he also turned into a rock...the new rock returned to the older rock...and together they became even more solid than before...and yes, they lived happily ever after.

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It's true - we are back together ! ! Believe in miracles - they do come true!!

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With all our love, E AND S

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P.S. More details to follow please stay tuned.

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Wed, 07 Jul 2004 CRYPTIC and TRUE ―― <>

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When stream water is parted by obstacles in its path, it remains the same stream, the same water. More often than not, the stream reconnects later, on its way. Much ground may have been covered during the parting and many more obstacles overcome. If, after parting, one arm of the stream cascades over steep rough terrain, that water will be greatly shaken during its purification. The other arm may take a gradual, longer route before reconnecting. Along the way, both arms will pick up attributes from their separate journeys. When reconnected, the same stream, same water, though enhanced by attributes, could find that debris must be deposited along the banks to avoid impeding future flow. The stream is changed and yet the same. It never will return to the way it was. The Same is true of soul-mates; they transverse the same and differing ground forever along their ways. Tributaries continue to expand the stream.

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S and E are the stream. E had L as an attribute while S continued his path. They are forever the same stream and water while on their 'experiences' paths. The connection will remain as the stream changes configurations.

There's no going back; why would they? There's much to see and share en route to the vast ocean where all streams become one. They now have so much to draw on from their expansion.

Watch and enjoy the flow.

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Thu, 07 Sep 2006 FULL CIRCLE ―― <>

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An island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others, including Love — was sinking so all prepared their boats and left.

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Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to stay until it started sinking. When Love was almost sinking, he decided to ask for help.

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Richness was passing by Love in a beautiful boat. Love said, " Richness, can you take me with you?" Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."

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Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by, "Vanity, please help me!" "I can't help you Love. You are all wet and will probably damage my boat," Vanity answered.

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Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you." "Oh... Love, I am so sad that I prefer to go alone.

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Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not listen when Love called her!

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Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elderly person. "It was Time." "Time? But why did Time help?" "Because only Time is capable of understanding such a great Love."

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P. S. Time is capable of solving anything. Things today may not have a solution but tomorrow they will find one! The time has come for us to stop tuning separate instruments and, together, to create a symphony.

AMEN!

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THE UNDER-RATED POWER OF CUDDLING: Cuddling just may have been the solution to the horrors of Centuries. If the now known evil leaders of various regimes had cuddled with a loved one each day, they never would have visited their evils on humanity.
ELM

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What if God IS what He says He IS - LOVE?

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LOVE: what GOD Is! The very thing that holds EVERYTHING TOGETHER -- the "concept" all of us continue to try to grasp.

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Is it too hard to believe that HE actually is the power -- LOVE?

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That LOVE is a force -- energy -- entity . . . is the very reason for our existence?

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We exist to LOVE?

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We exist to grasp LOVE?

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We exist because of LOVE? 

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No one can come to HIM unless LOVE is in them.

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Those who are closest to HIM are those who exhibit HIS LOVE most.

ELM

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Hate is attempting to overcome Love.

None of us believe this is really possible.

Please don't help this miss-belief prosper.

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Bette Midler - No one can say it 'Bette'r

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Sean,

I have borrowed this from Bette

because I cannot say it Better:

You are my hero?
You are the one with all the strength.

I've got you here in my heart.
I want you to know I know the truth,

I would be nothing without you.

Thank you, thank God for making you.

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___________________Extracted from the song authored by Jeff Silbar and Larry Henley

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